5 Powerful Questions to Ask When Choosing a Therapist

Finding the right therapist is a personal process. It can take a few tries to get the right fit. It makes sense that you might not want to spend time being vulnerable with a clinician who isn’t right for you. That is why it is essential to talk to a potential therapist before booking an appointment. Many therapists offer a brief phone consultation to ask questions and get an initial impression. To get you started, here are 5 essential questions to ask when choosing a therapist. 

1. What Do You Need From Therapy? 

One of the first questions to ask when choosing a therapist is actually about you. Before setting up a consultation, ask yourself what your specific needs are. 

Therapy is a highly personal experience. There is no ‘one size fits all’ approach to healing. Challenge yourself to come up with a specific answer. For example, do you have a goal for personal growth? Maybe there is a symptom you want to improve?  Or a relationship that’s not working?  

Your unique reasons for seeking therapy will help shape your search for an appropriate therapist match. 

2. Which Therapy Approach Resonates with You? 

Did you know that there are many different styles of therapy? Each therapeutic approach is best suited for different needs or issues. This is why it’s so helpful to know your unique needs before exploring more questions to ask when choosing a therapist.  

You have two options here. Choose an approach that aligns with your goals or keep an open mind towards whatever your therapist recommends. Some examples of approaches (also known as ‘modalities’) are:  

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Focuses on changing unhelpful thought patterns and behaviors 

• Interpersonal Therapy: Aims to improve relationships in your life with romantic partners, friends, family, and beyond 

• Internal Family Systems (IFT): Helps you identify the different “parts” of yourself and lead them as a healthier, well-functioning whole 

There are several more modalities to explore. Take some time to research the ones that resonate with you. 

3. What Qualifications Does This Therapist Have?  

Contrary to popular belief, the term “therapist” can apply to several different mental health professionals. There are a few differences between them, but the key thing to look out for is that your therapist has a license in your state.  

You can tell what licenses a professional has by their acronyms. At Known Well Counseling, you’ll notice that Caryn Schultz has the letters “LCSW” after her name. This stands for “Licensed Clinical Social Worker”. Other professionals might have different licenses, such as an LPC, LMFT, PsyD, or PhD. All these professionals can provide quality therapy.  

That said, make sure to ask your therapist if they have experience supporting clients with similar goals. If not, it’s worth consideration.  

4. What Are The Logistics?  

Of all the questions to ask when choosing a therapist, you need to ask about logistics. It boils down to three things: location, format, and coverage. 

• Location: Therapy licenses are issued by individual states. This means that they can only practice with clients who are in one of their licensed states. Besides that, you should try to find a nearby therapist if you plan on meeting in-person. 

• Format: Depending on the therapy modality, you can often choose between telehealth and in-person therapy sessions. Some therapists will even allow hybrid options. Think about what is best for your schedule and comfort. 

• Coverage: Most therapists accept at least some insurance plans. Check to see if the therapist you are interested in is covered by your health insurance plan. If not, you can also investigate out-of-pocket payment options. 

Are You Comfortable Around This Therapist?  

It might sound silly, but another one of the best questions to ask when choosing a therapist is “what does my gut say?”. Do you feel generally comfortable around them and the way they approach therapy? Some people prefer very nurturing therapists, while others would rather have someone who is analytical/direct. Your preferences here are a valid part of choosing the best therapist for you.  

Once you have a good sense of the professional you are looking for, prepare a list of questions or concerns. This can ensure that you will connect with their style and approach. At the end of the day, you need to feel safe, heard, and respected. 

Final Thoughts 

Choosing a therapist isn’t about finding the perfect match but finding someone who can walk with you through your challenges and work with you toward your goals. 

Take your time, ask questions, and trust your instincts. The right therapist can make all the difference.